If You Knew | Ellen Bass

Saturday, May 31, 2008

"What if you knew you'd be the last
to touch someone?
If you were taking tickets, for example,
at the theater, tearing them,
giving back the ragged stubs,
you might take care to touch that palm,
brush your fingertips
along the life line's crease.

When a man pulls his wheeled suitcase
too slowly through the airport, when
the car in front of me doesn't signal,
when the clerk at the pharmacy
won't say Thank you, I don't remember
they're going to die.

A friend told me she'd been with her aunt.
They'd just had lunch and the waiter,
a young gay man with plum black eyes,
joked as he served the coffee, kissed
her aunt's powdered cheek when they left.
Then they walked half a block and her aunt
dropped dead on the sidewalk.

How close does the dragon's spume
have to come? How wide does the crack
in heaven have to split?
What would people look like
if we could see them as they are,
soaked in honey, stung and swollen,
reckless, pinned against time?"


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Picture Discs, the New (((GRRLS))) album

Friday, May 30, 2008

Although there is an inevitably expensive new life entering the atmosphere of my own, slightly older life basically any week now, I have not been able to stop myself from dropping a few bucks here and there on two truly wonderful picture discs.

The first, a pre-order of CocoRosie's "God Has A Voice, She Speaks Through Me," which came with a digital download of the single and also a direct download of the song's new video. I have pretty high hopes for the upcoming album this song is on, but am becoming increasingly skeptical about it. Why? I'm not too sure. Does it have something to do with this video, although it's beautiful? Maybe.

and the second, the David Horvitz picture disc released by my beloved Parenthetical Girls, featuring an OMD cover ("Maid of Orleans: The Waltz of Joan of Arc") and a remix of a song from their not yet released new album "Entanglements," which (according to their website) is coming out September 9th on Tomlab!

Here's the OMB cover below:

Joan of Arc (Maid of Orleans) - Parenthetical Girls

Rumor has it the album also features a cover of "Windmills of Your Mind," known best to me by having also been covered by my soul twin Dusty Springfield, adding only further proof to my assertion that I was meant from birth to love this band more than any other. I've got my fingers crossed (in vain?) that another east coast tour is forthcoming. September 9th cannot come fast enough for me!

Neil LaBute's "Reasons To Be Pretty" opening

Thursday, May 29, 2008

Neil LaBute's newest play, "Reasons to Be Pretty" is going to be running in NY at the MCC Theater in a few weeks, and readers of one of the feminist blogs I read regularly, Feministing, have been offered a discount if they're interested in tickets.

If I wasn't currently a giant baby house on legs I'd be doing everything in my power to be there, since I love LaBute's work (ignoring, of course, his 2006 remake of "The Wicker Man" which I shall henceforth never speak of again). Although it's often perceived as controversial and usually pretty hard to stomach, I appreciate his writing for it's honesty. Most of it can be classified as dark comedies dealing with the capacity for evil that reside in all of us, no matter how righteous we may struggle to be. "Reasons to Be Pretty" is the last installment of a trilogy LaBute's worked on (the two other's being "The Shape of Things" and "Fat Pig") that deals with our society's obsession with physical perfection, how it manipulates weaknesses in all of us regardless of how we look, and what it costs us all in the long run.

I was first exposed to LaBute after I caught "Bash: Latter Day Plays" on HBO a long time ago, late at night when I couldn't sleep. What I remember most (aside from honestly almost vomiting during "A Gaggle of Saints") was how deeply "Medea Redux" touched me on this universal, purely female level. (What his perfection in writing about women could say about men, based on the other two plays, is too scary for me to comment on.) I'm constantly impressed by how well LaBute writes women (as complicated, emotionally textured and human), though he's been accused in the past of misogyny. Even the "merciless" and "cruel" Evelyn in "The Shape of Things" was relateable to me, in an almost uncomfortable way. Although I guess it can be argued that uncomfortable relating is sort of LaBute's shtick, it still really impresses me how well he taps into the darker, scarier parts of characters representing people who are perceived as "normal" and "good."

If you're in the area and want to check it out, you can use the link above to find a code that will knock some bucks off the price of admission. And let me know how it goes, too.

All You Need to Relax is A Stroke

Wednesday, May 28, 2008

I've been wanting to write about this for a couple of days- a neuroscientist in Boston had a stroke that caused her to experience true nirvana. She's now trying to prove scientifically that bliss is a an attainable state for all human beings.

"The incessant chatter that normally filled her mind disappeared. Her everyday worries — about a brother with schizophrenia and her high-powered job — untethered themselves from her and slid away.

Her perceptions changed, too. She could see that the atoms and molecules making up her body blended with the space around her; the whole world and the creatures in it were all part of the same magnificent field of shimmering energy.

“My perception of physical boundaries was no longer limited to where my skin met air,” she has written in her memoir, “My Stroke of Insight,” which was just published by Viking.

After experiencing intense pain, she said, her body disconnected from her mind. “I felt like a genie liberated from its bottle,” she wrote in her book. “The energy of my spirit seemed to flow like a great whale gliding through a sea of silent euphoria.”


My first reaction when reading this, honestly, was "duh." Not as a criticism to Dr. Taylor necessary, but to people who don't seem to understand the basics of how their brains work. I'm not a neuroscientist but I know about left lobes and right lobes. It's completely logical to deduce that stress, anxiety, panic attacks and general strife come from living inside a society hellbent on forcing us all to be left brain dominant ($$$), while those who exist on the fringe- religious figures, artists, "hippie dippies," etc seem to achieve a sort of deeper peace/release from focusing more on their right lobes.

I've known more than a few people (am related to and have dated a few of them too, unfortunately) whose first and immediate reaction to someone attempting to live a peaceful, empathetic lifestyle is to denigrate them by labeling them "gay" or some other charming variant. That sort of woeful misguidedness is rampant within my generation, which prides itself on being the "most unique" as long as that title come from within a set boundary of what's already acceptably hip. They pride themselves on how WICKED DRUNK. BRO they can get every weekend, never bothering to give themselves more credit than that because having the other drunk people think they're "cool" means more to them. We've somehow defined the people who choose other, healthier-for-the-soul activities as "boring" or "lame. "Ours is a culture that hunts down loving, empathetic people and attempts to mold and shape them into something "stronger" and more "American" by calling them names and shaming them. Since when it empathy, caring and general pacifism something to be ashamed of? Since when is cruelty, sarcasm, cynicism and ego tripping something to be PROUD of? How can you PRIDE yourself on that? No thanks, America. I'd much rather be "boring" (aka "not drunk") or "gay" (aka "feeling") then get caught up in that defeatist meat grinder any day. The people with the inner strength to live outside of all that are much more interesting to me anyway.

My point is, we live in a society that is fueled by our anxiety. The very structure of our culture relies on it. Rushing to work, depriving ourselves of sleep, worrying about how we look, worrying about how others perceive us, rushing home from work, worrying whether we're making enough money, worrying about our stuff and things, dressing ourselves up for the bar, worrying about how well we can squeeze ourselves into the rigid definition of "acceptable." No wonder the idea of nirvana seems like a myth to most of us, right? No wonder there's so much scorn aimed at people who manage to find a way to live comfortably outside of all that posturing and worry. I'd be jealous too.

"When we find ourselves believing that killing a man makes us more of a man, but loving a man makes us less of a man, it’s probably time to reexamine our criteria for manhood." -Jay Smooth @ illdoctrine.com


How's that for a mouthful?

American society is a mess, a complete mess. And how "civilized" humanity at large didn't see the mess coming a mile away, I'm not sure. We've all but abandoned the greater, more powerful aspects of our humanity for money and nationality (both of which are man-made concepts anyway, completely dependent on society's belief in them to exist), and now we wonder why we all have Generalized Anxiety Disorder and can't relate to each other? The "greatest minds" of our species spend so much money and time (both left lobe controlled, btw) on trying to figure out ways to medicate our numerous psychological maladies. Depression, anxiety, personality disorders, ADHD, autism. Instead of pumping ourselves full of drugs, how about we (as a society) stop stressing the importance of ULTIMATE EGO and take the time to hang out with each other for a while? How about working for pleasure and self fulfillment instead of corporations? Is all this negativity and soul sucking worth the leisure of being able to stroll into a store at any time and buy whatever we "need?" How badly do we truly "need" designer clothes, giant cars, cheap plastic baby toys, and any number of things created in factories? Is pacifying our laziness really worth giving up our collective sanity? Do most of us even realize how fully involved in the rat race we are? I don't think we do.

You don't need to have a stroke to experience nirvana. You don't need to use drugs or join a monastery. You just need to give yourself the time, space and tools to go out into the fresh air, dream and create, regain the power of (and then trust) your natural intuition, and be empathetic to others who aren't exactly like you. Give yourself permission to be peaceful. How any of us can possibly manage to do all of that while still paying our bills and therefore keeping ourselves "alive" in this warped culture, I don't know.

David's accident

Tuesday, May 27, 2008

Hello friends- apologies for dropping out of plain sight. David was in a moderately serious car accident last Thursday on his way home from work; he was about 2 minutes from home, stopped in a left turn lane, when a speeding car rear ended him and pushed him into the car in front of him. Both airbags deployed but he still managed to hit his head on something hard enough to crack open his head, though he doesn't know or remember what.

I got a weird, barely legible phone call from some girl at the scene who called me after David asked her too, saying he'd been in an accident on Roosevelt Ave. She claimed he'd call me in a few minutes, but I actually waddled myself, pregnant as I am and wearing a ridiculously giant floor length maternity dress (my "around the house" dress) and flip flops, all the way down the main road to where the accident was, half frantic and half in DO MODE. I didn't know how serious it was or what was going on, just that ambulances were flying by me and traffic was backed up as far down the road as I could see, on both sides.

When I finally got to the accident scene, David was already in the ambulance, sitting on a stretcher, with blood running down all over his face. There was skid marks all over the road and three completely wrecked cars. Luckily for us, the airbag and his seatbelt saved his life. He was the only person injured. I road in the ambulance with him down to the hospital, where he got 9 staples in his head and 8 stitches in his chin. He's concussant and has been out of work since- the doctors don't want him driving and his job requires him to drive most of the day. He had a CAT scan that came back clear and some additional x-rays are scheduled for tomorrow, but right now it seems like he's going to be fine aside from a few weeks of pretty bad headaches and a some nasty scars.

We've just been sort of taking it slow all week, laying low and enjoying each other's company. I'm not really mentally prepared to discuss the "what ifs" or what they would have meant, I haven't even really wanted to talk about it with my family or my friends, I'm just so thankful he's still around.


I love you, Buoy.

Trying out a subscription to Last.fm

Thursday, May 22, 2008

After being a regular and enthusiastic user for 3 years (scary), I finally decided to try out a subscription to Last.fm. It was only $3 for the month, so we'll see how I like it. One of the many awesome things about subscription service is that it opens up all of my various radio stations to anyone who cares to listen. I embedded a few of them below. "Caitmary's Radiostation" just takes random tracks I've listened to since I was a member and throws them at you. "Caitmary's Loved Tracks" are tracks that I got so pumped about that I actually took the time to press a button and label as "loved." The other is various songs by artists I've seen live in my lifetime, not necessarily songs I've ever listened to. Enjoy!










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caitmary@last.fm

Et tu, Naeem?

Wednesday, May 21, 2008

Has anyone else caught that salad dressing commercial with Spank Rock's "Bump" in it?

Uhmmm. "All we're changing about salad dressing iiiiiiiiiiis everything!"

You know now that I'm thinking about it, whenever I hear "Just a dirty little grin when you dig it, dig it in. What the bitches think of this, when you stickin’ it in?" I always *DO* want a salad.

 
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